Archive for Resilience

Stephen Covey, in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, advocates strongly for writing a personal mission statement. Then use this as a compass in specific situations. He gives many reasons why having a personal mission statement is a crucial ingredient for highly effective people. I have twice attended 3-day workshops sponsored by [...]

Collaboration can help you be more emotionally intelligent and resilient. One way to encourage collaboration is to ask the other person what they really want. And you need to tell them what you really want. If you can create a sense that both of you are a team facing a problem together, success is more [...]

Emotional intelligence provides us with strategies other than frantic attempts to control our situation. Consider the story of test pilots told by Tara Brach in her excellent book, Radical Acceptance, on page 49. In the 1950′s air force test pilots attempted with new jet engines to fly at higher altitudes than ever before. In the [...]

Emotional intelligence includes having clarity of intention. Having clarity of intention results in more energy and resourcefulness. And that means more resilience in the face of problems, change, and turbulence. Resilience means we can handle turbulence and bounce back. To be resilient and resourceful, we need to ask ourselves in each new situation: – What [...]

Tara Brach in her book, Radical Acceptance, on p. 24, tells this story: “Mohini was a regal white tiger who lived for many years at the Washington, D.C. Zoo. for most of those years her home was in the old lion house – a typical twelve-by-twelve-foot cage with iron bars and a cement floor. Mohini [...]

Resilient person: The following true story is about a resilient person described in the excellent book on resilience, The Survivor Personality by Al Siebert, pages 2-3. This is a true story of someone turning a devastating blow into good fortune. In 1926 a 25 year old illustrator and one of his older brothers started a [...]

My book chapter, “Emotional Intelligence for Resilience,” published in the Amazon best-seller book on resilience, Upping the Down Side, is the source of this Tip. Know what you really want. Having clarity of intention results in more energy, resourcefulness, and resilience. Here is how to get clarity of intention and resilience in the face of [...]

Emotional intelligence has many faces. Sometimes a metaphor captures as aspect of emotional intelligence in a way we can remember. Here is my metaphor of the resilient tree. I was hiking along a river and noticed several large trees that had no earth underneath them. The river had washed it away. But some wily trees [...]

I have published a book chapter called, “Emotional Intelligence for Resilience: How to Know What you Really Want and Stay Focused on it,” in the Amazon best seller book, Upping the Down Side. My chapter focuses on having clarity of intention that results in more energy and resilience. Clarity of intention means you know what [...]

Geese flying in proper V formation can fly a 70% longer distance than a single goose flying alone. This happens because a goose creates an updraft that benefits the next goose in formation. Is there a lesson here? For the geese, resilience is based on being in formation. For us humans, we might translate that [...]